Sex After Childbirth

When can I start to have sex again?

Doctors often recommend waiting until at least 6 weeks have passed after the birth of a baby to ensure the woman’s body has recovered from the birth. Sexual intercourse can be started earlier if the vagina feels healed (from an episiotomy or a tear) and bleeding has stopped. Each woman will have to decide for herself when she feels comfortable and ready to resume sex.

When will I feel like having sex again?

When there is a new baby in the house, new parents may often feel very close to each other. However, you may feel you have neither the time nor the energy for sex. Hormonal changes after birth can also make a woman feel less interested in sex.

There are ways to show love for each other besides sexual activities. In the first weeks, cuddling, kissing, and mutual masturbation are some other ways to be close.

Will I notice any changes after birth?

Vaginal dryness is common after childbirth. More foreplay before sex increases your body’s natural lubrication. Using a water-based, personal lubricant or lubricated condoms can help. Your vaginal muscles may feel loose. Kegel exercises help to strengthen your pelvic floor muscles. Ask your health care provider how to do Kegel exercises effectively.

When should I see a doctor?

• If intercourse is painful. There may be a physical problem.
• If you or your partner are worried about a decreased sexual response.
• If you feel depressed for more than 2 weeks after giving birth.
• When any of these feelings go together with a decreased interest in sex.

Will having sex affect breastfeeding?

Having sex will not affect breastfeeding. It is okay to touch the breasts during sex with hands and the mouth. Some women will feel sexually aroused when the baby is breastfeeding. This is normal. The hormones stimulated when a woman has an orgasm cause breastmilk to flow. Some couples will not enjoy touching the breasts if they are sore or if milk leaks.